examples: default solo vs. default social

last year, I was generally default solo.

• I lived in SF solo
• I went to Mexico solo (I hella glamorize solo travel tbh)
• I watched 10 kdramas solo
• I didn't take friends' recommendations for books or shows
• I meditated solo and went to the gym solo
• I didn't take vacation when family and friends did
• I ate meals solo
• I pursued my hobbies like learning Korean and dance solo
• I worked from home

this year, I tried being more default social.

• I live with roommates in Brooklyn
• I'm going to Italy with a friend
• I watched a kdrama with my housemate
• I watched Tamil movies my parents recommended & I read multiple books a friend recommended
• In July I went to the gym with my roommate & in the fall I meditated with my housemate
• I tried going to my roommate's writing club regularly and my other roommate's weekly meditation
• Sometimes I'll eat lunch or dinner with housemates
• I took Korean lessons with friends
• I go into the office sometimes

My conclusion now is that it's a balance (duh). I have to do what feels right for me.

I prefer my hobbies to my friends' hobbies, and to be honest I like my music more than my friends' music.

But I like tagging along with my roommates' routines. I like reading books and watching movies friends and family recommend. I like eating dinner with people. And I like traveling with some of them.