silly rishi, trix are for kids!

often, i get ahead of myself when i'm dating someone

whether it's one date, three, or a relationship, my mind jumps to the future (and honestly obsesses a bit)

i've been working really hard on not doing that anymore, especially when it's only a few dates in. the reality is, there's always uncertainty in a relationship (and life)... until you put a ring on it, and even after. i want to better embrace that

i heard a good mindset tip from a youtuber

imagine a teenager comes home, tells his mom, like omg i met this girl at school, we're gonna live together happily ever after

the mom's gonna be like yeah sure, talk to me in a week

i got that teenager inside my head. i go on a first date and that teen is really running the show, fantasizing, getting ahead of himself

but i want the parent in there too, a parent that's earnest and wants the best for the teen, a parent that side-eyes anyone that treats their teen badly / isn't giving their teen the best

i like that the teen is in there. he's starry eyed and optimistic and ready to give people a chance

but i want the parent in there too. to be realistic and look out for the teen as well

things i imagine the parent saying:

• "what do you mean you wanna get married after spending 3 hours with this person"
• "what do you mean you're loony over someone who didn't text you back for 3 days"

also i just like the phrase "silly rishi, trix are for kids." i will try to use that phrase whenever i get ahead of myself