examples: default solo vs. default social
last year, I was generally default solo.
- I lived in SF solo
- I went to Mexico solo (I hella glamorize solo travel tbh)
- I watched 10 kdramas solo
- I didn't take friends' recommendations for books or shows
- I meditated solo and went to the gym solo
- I didn't take vacation when family and friends did
- I ate meals solo
- I pursued my hobbies like learning Korean and dance solo
- I worked from home
this year, I tried being more default social.
- I live with roommates in Brooklyn
- I'm going to Italy with a friend
- I watched a kdrama with my housemate
- I watched Tamil movies my parents recommended & I read multiple books a friend recommended
- In July I went to the gym with my roommate & in the fall I meditated with my housemate
- I tried going to my roommate's writing club regularly and my other roommate's weekly meditation
- Sometimes I'll eat lunch or dinner with housemates
- I took Korean lessons with friends
- I go into the office sometimes
My conclusion now is that it's a balance (duh). I have to do what feels right for me.
I prefer my hobbies to my friends' hobbies, and to be honest I like my music more than my friends' music.
But I like tagging along with my roommates' routines. I like reading books and watching movies friends and family recommend. I like eating dinner with people. And I like traveling with some of them.